Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), memorializes trans individuals who have died because of anti-transgender discrimination and victimization. It occurs annually on and around November 20 each year. We invite you to explore, learn, and participate with your Jewish community this year. Below are some resources to get you started. For additional resources on trans Jewish issues, check out our Resource Library.
Contains readings, personal stories from transgender people, quotes from rabbinic leaders, and suggested concrete action steps.
See how Jewish organizations are observing TDOR this year and check out events happening around the country (see “Events” tab). Learn more
Keshet’s Parent & Family Connection: For parents (or other family member) struggling with their child’s gender identity.
Keshet/Hazon LGBTQ & Ally Teen Shabbaton (2/27-3/1): A safe and welcoming Jewish space for transgender and gender expansive teens.
Today You Are a Man:
A father shares his pride at being a dad to his transgender son.
How To Hire a Trans Rabbi:
When the Pasadena Jewish Temple & Center’s top choice for a job was a transgender rabbi, they took the steps needed to educate their community.
One Family’s Wish for a World without Gender Roles:
When one Jewish couple put their child in daycare, they had no idea the struggles they’d face surrounding gender.
The Coming Out Process:
Before coming out to his community, this trans rabbi had to come out to himself.
Shipwrecked with God: In this profoundly personal post for Yom Kippur, poet and professor Joy Ladin explores the book of Jonah, coming to terms with her identity, and her relationship with God. And be sure to check out Ladin’s incredible memoir, Through the Door of Life: A Jewish Journey Between Genders.
We’ve got the answers to your questions about creating inclusive spaces for the “T” of “LGBT”!
A brochure with concrete steps that Jewish communities can take to be more inclusive of their transgender members.
For many transgender people and people who don’t conform to societal gender norms, using a public restroom is a daily struggle. Use these signs to explain why you have created an all-gender bathroom.
A terrific series by The Forward exploring transgender and Jewish identity.
How one mikveh created a place where a transgender and genderqueer Jew could feel so at home.
Eight questions a hevra kadisha should ask to make Jewish rituals for death more inclusive of transgender Jews.
Created by Rabbis Reuben Zellman and Elliot Kukla, TransTexts explores what traditional Jewish texts have to say about transgender and gender nonconforming experiences and gender in general.
This Hanukkah guide, part of Ask Big Questions/Hillel, is perfect for group discussions about the risks and rewards of taking a stand. The guide features an important, moving essay by author S. Bear Bergman about the intersection of Hanukkah and Transgender Day of Remembrance.
Shabbat service with liturgy, poems, and other readings specifically compiled for TDOR.
A prayer (in English) written by Rabbi Reuben Zellman on the occasion of TDOR.
Duncan McCullough shares a beautiful and painful rendition of “Unetanah Tokef,” a poem from our Yom Kippur liturgy, in honor of TDOR and the lives we have lost.Learn more
In this d’var Torah, professor, poet, and Keshet board member Joy Ladin retells the biblical stories of Abraham, Sarah, and Isaac through the lens of their gender and life transitions as a way for transgender readers to find themselves in the Torah.
This d’var about the life and death of Sarah was given by Rabbi Becky Silverstein at the Pasadena Jewish Temple and Center on Friday, November 14th, 2014.Learn more
In this sermon about identity and self-understanding, Kadin Henningsen highlights the ways that characters in this Torah portion come to know themselves and what we as LGBT people can glean from this.
Vanessa “Vinny” Prell offers some insights into how we, as queer Jews and allies, can understand and connect with what it means to be transgender.
Turns out the Torah was full of trans allies. Who knew?
Kate Bornstein is a Jewish transgender author, playwright, performance artist and gender theorist.
A 30 second video for Transgender Day of Remembrance
Check out this series of videos of transgender Jews and allies to trans Jews. Tremendous gratitude to Keshet members Alex, David, Stacy, Stephanie, and Suzie for sharing your lives with us and to the Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition for this project.