How to Get Someone’s New Name and/or Pronouns Right, Every Time, Sooner than you Think

Read this excerpt from Special Topics in Being a Human by S. Bear Bergman and Saul Freedman-Lawson

June 14, 2024

Having trouble with pronouns? Use this resource for tips and tricks to help honor the trans, gender-expansive, and nonbinary folks in your life.

As an author, educator, and public speaker, S. Bear Bergman has documented his experience as, among other things, a trans parent, with wit and aplomb. He also writes the advice column Asking Bear, in which he answers crucial questions about how best to make our collective way through the world.

Featuring disarming illustrations by Saul Freedman-Lawson,¬†Special Topics in Being a Human elaborates on Asking Bear’s premise: a gentle, witty, and insightful book of practical advice for the modern age. It offers Dad advice and Jewish bubbe wisdom, all filtered through a queer lens, to help you navigate some of the complexities of life – from how to make big decisions or make a good apology, to how to get someone’s new name and pronouns right as quickly as possible, to how to gracefully navigate a breakup. With warmth and candor, Special Topics in Being a Human¬†calls out social inequities and injustices in traditional advice-giving, validates your feelings, asks a lot of questions, and tries to help you be your best possible self with kindness, compassion, and humour.

Synopsis courtesy of Arsenal Pulp Press

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