In honor of Transgender Day of Remembrance, the author offers some insights into how we, as queer Jews and allies, can understand and connect with what it means to be transgender.In this Torah portion, Jacob takes on a new name, like many transgender people do. The experience of being transgender has as much in common as being lesbian, bisexual or gay. As people who challenge accepted notions of sexuality and gender, we all face discrimination. The fates of lesbian, gay, and bisexual people are bound up with those of transgender people. Jacob teaches us that the way to change the world is to see holiness, to name it, and to never forget.