Rabbi Haviva Ner-David, an Israel-based scholar and writer, addresses the ritual and liturgical innovations that might be adopted by heterosexual couples as individuals and communities begin to develop new rituals for gay couples. She suggests that the halachic dialogue and the creation of new rituals for sanctifying the union of same-sex Jewish couples presents us with viable options for sanctifying heterosexual Jewish weddings in a way that reflects egalitarian values. Rabbi Ner-David catalogues variations on traditional kiddushin that reflect these egalitarian values and that help us avoid tragic situations that may arise at the dissolution of a marriage.
Wedding Ceremony and Documents
Rabbi Haviva Ner-David has included wedding documents developed with a bride and groom for their wedding that could be adapted for a same-sex couple. The documents include the neder/shevuah (vow) made by the couple establishing bilateral exclusivity.