The author retells the story of the complex family of Jacob, Leah, and Rachel and compares it to our modern-day queer families.  Kabakov discusses Leah and Rachel’s relationship and its similarities with lesbian co-parenting. She suggests that this complex relationship, as its story is told in the Bible, should ease some of the shame we may feel about “competitive parenting.” She then discusses the relationship of Ruth and Naomi as a model one for healthy co-parenting. She ends with a call for being open about the messiness and complications of our own families.